[ Given more time to get used to his predicament, he might have been able to react with more subtlety. And it's not that he's never allowed others to see him as a woman, but only then it was to gain an advantage or as a disguise... to ask him to pretend he sees himself in that way, with no recourse to hide his physique... ]

I don't suppose it would change their attitude much if they did realize it, supposing they were not already aware to begin with...

[ He does relax his shoulders a little, though. ]

Seems we all had to put up with this ordeal. I am sorry you are finding it difficult...